Two halves of the same problem — a conversation you are not ready for, and one
you are waiting on — and both are local to this device on purpose. "I am
ignoring this person until Tuesday" and "remind me if they have not answered"
are statements about a relationship, and the relay has no business holding
either. The honest cost is that neither follows you to a new phone; the
alternative is handing a server the list of people you are avoiding.
🔴 **A reply arriving cancels the reminder, and it happens in `Session.record`**
— the one place every inbound message passes through. Hanging it off a screen or
a poll handler means the one path that forgot to call it produces a reminder
that fires after they answered, and that is the single thing that would teach
people to ignore reminders.
The service fires due reminders from its existing loop, deliberately AFTER
`receive()`: a reply that has just landed cancels its own reminder before it can
go off. Checking first would nudge about a conversation answered a moment ago.
Cleared as it fires, too — a reminder is one-shot, and leaving the row would
re-notify every half second for ever.
⚠️ Snoozes are recomputed, never cached as a flag. A snooze expires by the clock
passing and nothing runs at that moment, so a stored boolean leaves a
conversation muted past its own deadline.
⚠️ Same privacy rule as message notifications: a count, never a name. Who you
are waiting on is as sensitive as what they said.
engine 163, client 96, app 35.
Co-Authored-By: Claude Opus 4.8 <noreply@anthropic.com>
